I found myself thinking the other day about why I do the kind of work I do. It’s a good question to ask, I think. I’m at the age now when I could at least begin to think about retirement, but for some reason it doesn’t even cross my mind.
This leads to the question of how I got here. I love this work. It feels important. It feels to me that working with people and improving their relationships is the obvious culmination of all work I have done before. This is where I was meant to “land”. So what was the first step on my journey?
The first step on my career path was as a pre-school teacher. This entailed getting a good understanding of child development and learning about the very first stages of becoming a human being.
Here is where the importance of relationship first entered my consciousness, and became a pivotal concept for me in my work…and in my life.
A child comes into the world literally through the process of his/her physical relationship to “mother”. Very quickly this helpless infant must bond to a mother or caregiver in order to just survive. Relationship is survival. It is as simple as that, and yet as profound as that.
So…no wonder that early relationships in a child’s life have a profound and lasting effect on all subsequent relationships.
This is how it all started for me. Studying the interactions of babies with their mothers/fathers/ caregivers/family and teachers laid the foundation for interest in all relationships of people as they interact and are interdependent all over the planet.
I began to realize that disruption, abuse, loss, or any kind of trauma in the early baby/caregiver bond set a blueprint for how a human is able to form necessary attachments throughout life. Secure attachments are the bedrock of healthy relationships throughout life. I’m still learning about this and trying to help people “re attach” successfully at all stages of their lives
This is the work that I do